It means the world to most people for you to attend their event…wedding or not, it’s a big deal. I cannot count the number of times my husband and I discussed how much the day meant to just have all our favorite people together. We’re the type of couple that didn’t even want a registry because, “they don’t need to get us something.”

And honestly, if it weren’t for the price tag, I think my dad would celebrate a wedding like ours every year. All the people. All the friends and family. All the food, drinks. Literally so much fun.

Not all events, families or couples are that way, but the point is if you’re invited, you’re loved. You should act like it. Be a good guest.

What does that even mean? I will keep this blog post short and sweet, but I have 12 ways to ensure you’re a guest that will be invited back.

RSVP. Isn’t this kind of a no-brainer by now? If you expect to eat, have a seat, or be included in any activities, you should RSVP and by the deadline. I had people send text messages the night before with “I hope it’s okay I’m coming; I can’t wait to see you!” How do you expect someone to respond to that? However, I will be honest, I was pleasantly surprised the number of RSVPs received back – thank goodness for online RSVP collection. I should write a whole blog on RSVPs.
Don’t bring a guest. This also goes without saying, but here we are. If you’re invite says, “Your Name and Plus One” go for it. Although, the host is paying for all the meals and really doesn’t appreciate you bringing a random person, so you aren’t feeling alone. Chances are you know plenty of other people at the party. Reach out them and carpool.
Be honest. Don’t forget to tell the host your restrictions, specifically food. We’re going to look at this like you’re working with a man – you must tell them what you want because they can’t read your mind. If you’re on a diet eating only kale and water, but get mad when they serve you the most decadent piece of cherry cheesecake, that’s on you.
Don’t bring pets. Does it say it on the invite? Okay, then we know the answer. It puts the host in an awkward situation by unwillingly letting you bring your pet or having to tell you to leave. If you don’t have an option – at least ask!
Bring a map. Just kidding, we have smart phones and Google. Seriously though, you should know where you’re going prior to leaving. If you text the bride at 10:30 a.m. asking how to get to the church, good luck. She’s not responding. I can’t believe this is even a tip, but I may or may not be the person that’s like “wait, where am I going?”
Be on time. Even if you do know where you’re going, be sure to be on time. I’m the fashionably late kind of girl when it comes to personal events, which is okay, too! It gives the host a little extra time to make sure their ducks are in a row before the event starts. The fashionably late tip does not apply to weddings. Be on time. Be early. But don’t be late.

Bring a gift. See more details about gifts from the bachelorette and bridal shower post for those events, but gifts are always appreciated. Even though I started this blog with “we don’t need gifts,” giving is my love language. No one necessarily expects it, but how sweet of a gesture. Also, for weddings it’s protocol, don’t show up without a gift or a card of some-sort.

Avoid drama. I will just leave this one as is. If you’re attending an event and a fight breaks out, avoid it at all costs. If you’re the one starting the fight or drama, please stay home.
Cell phones should be put away or silenced. Parties are for the present. If you’re going to be on your phone, not enjoying the people and the party, please just mail your gift. Keep the phone on vibrate or try to avoid using it. Engage with the other guest not your roommate who stayed home.
Engage with people and the host. See what I mean? Put the phone away. Enjoy the dancing. Enjoy the conversation. Why are you attending if you’re not there to take it all in and chat with the guests?
Eat. Ain’t no one keeping me from the buffet table. Choosing to eat is the best form of flattery. The host has gone above and beyond to provide the food, snacks and treats for you to be satisfied and as an ice breaker. Take advantage of it, or at least give it small taste.
Offer to help. If you’re at the end of the party, you can always offer to help clean up. However, learn to read the cues and don’t overstay your welcome, which really is a whole tip on its own. I’m unfortunately the girl that will tell you I don’t need help cleaning just because I’m wore out and mentally need a break. I will clean it all by myself as a time to decompress.

Weddings or not, these are all good rules to go by. If you’re joining a friend for a dinner night. If you’re heading to a 1-year-old birthday party. No matter what, enjoy the time you’re spending with those around you and don’t overstay your welcome.